Pornography is a subtle snare that has become increasingly accessible in society thanks to the internet. How has it effected our love lives? Being accessible so freely should we now consider it acceptable wholeheartedly? Not everything that is accessible is acceptable. Moreover not everything that is permissable is beneficial. As a former lifeguard and fitness trainer that worked in an environment where the human body was glorified beyond measure, I can attest to the imbalance and excess in our society concerning the level of importance we place on the outward appearance. Undoubtedly lust is not love. Furthermore lust is not life. Though gratifying fleshly lusts can be temporarily enjoyable, it is never fulfilling nor is it satisfying. Partaking in lust apart from love is like eating cotton candy. It tastes good but it just doesn't quite fill you. As comedian Jay Leno alluded to one evening on his show, "Much of America went without sex last night due to power failures across the country. It seems many could not access their computers." How true this is when people choose to pursue fleshly gratification through pornographic material over the internet rather than develop a meaningful relationship. Sadly many don't even have a social life because they are so allured to the internet, web cams, chat and fantasia. Fantasy however is not reality. Not to mention masturbation is like playing tennis by yourself, not too thrilling or exhilarating. Having sex with a computer screen is not what I call erotic either. Nevertheless I suppose many would rather date their computer than work at establishing a true relationship. Perhaps a true genuine relationship is too risky for some because they cannot control the interaction as with a computer. This is the main problem with pornography. It projects something that is merely an image without any true substance or significance. Men feel and fantasize for a moment in cyberspace or at home in front of the tv screen like they are the hero in that sensual moment, while neglecting cultivating true intimacy with their wife or a lonely damsel who could be marriage material. Thus the over all economy of love suffers as the supply of available men is reduced. Pornography takes men out of the relational game and equation when they get enamored with lust over a tv or computer screen. When men prefer to stay home and visually lust rather than pursue a real relationship, they take themselves out of circulation from the dating scene and lessen the chances of for good women to secure stable relationships. In the beginning God said, "It is not good for man to be alone." (Genesis 2:18) Pornography leaves a man alone - apart from his wife and without a wife if he is single. Ultimate happiness is found in a loving, life-giving relationship not pornographic material. Though porn may be highly accessible these days, it is certainly not acceptable nor beneficial. |
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